Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Everett at Three Months



We just crossed the three month threshold with Everett, and there definitely is something to be said for three months being a point where you exhale and begin to see the fun of parenting. For his first month, Everett was content to stare at walls, scratch his face, and generally hang out. That was at his best. He also, of course, screamed a lot and generally required us to be doing something to him (feed, bathe, change) every minute of the day. The baby books and the internet tell you that infants will feed 8 to 12 times per day for the first month, but Everett so liked the milk he was getting that he fed 12 times a day for the first eight weeks! He was especially cranky during evenings, to the point that Brandi often suggested that he had colic. We had a cavalcade of visitors to help us weather the storm of screams. I had some success with swaddling and turning him on his side, and I would occasionally put him on one of the stairs (closely monitored) to calm him down. I set a record of getting peed on three times in the span of 12 hours that still stands to this day.



Month two was filled with a lot of exasperation with the fact that Everett was still being a baby. Here are some of the things he could have done in month two that would have helped us out: space out his feedings (which, to his credit, he did toward the end of the month) and maybe smile or make sustained eye contact or give us just a little something in exchange for all the time we were investing in him. Everett added smiling to his repertoire, but whenever he smiled it seemed like an accident. And he'd look at people, sort of. More like look past them.




Month three brought additional, purposeful smiles, plus more activity and something that almost resembled interaction--he was looking more at people and giving them some sustained attention. This month was filled with travel, as I spent 19 days away from home and did not spend a single Friday night in my own bed. Brandi was a champ, getting Everett to sleep longer and then going back to work. We tried reading and toys and other things with little luck and varying consistency, but mostly we just marveled at a little boy adjusting to the world around him. Sometime in month three we determined that Everett is a pretty chill little kid--it's been a while since he cried for any sustained time. He's chunked up over the last several weeks, moving from below average to above average in weight.




Now that he's three months old, Everett smiles on a regular basis, and he even mixes in the occasional giggle. His favorite place to be is definitely the changing table, where he always smiles and laughs. He also will smile if he's not ready to go to bed--okay, mostly he cries and squirms, but if he's been having a good time, he will test you with a playful smile to see if you want to pick him back up. He babbles to himself, especially when he's sitting in his carseat. He's generally a calm baby, but he'll kick up a storm in no time.

Monday, April 25, 2011

Palindrome Poems

When I was living in Bedford, I had a lot of free time on my hands. How much free time? Well, I wrote two of the longest and most complex palindrome poems that have ever been created. They got deleted when I closed my old website, so here they are for posterity.


#1:
I saw suine go try tramp art,
laid arena, crania, gyms,
awe lupine poem,
now straw or cotton.
Wolf robbed evil itself
for a wade in edifices
(animal’s raw nit ego, temper).
Prevent it.
Never prep me to get in war,
slam in a sec if I denied a war off,
lest I lived ebb or flow.
Not to crow, arts won me.
Open, I pule:
was my gain arcane,
radial trap, martyr to genius?
Was I?


#2:
I made ill a sane, rare tale of wonder.
A dewy myth gimps as I ran,
I’m esodic,
I nap tons, rent rapture, damn a metal.
Otiose was I, lived a broke embargo.
Two new, as I won in a test.
One rewield, I defer,
saw names rap satire.
Monotone? No.
To no merit, a sparse man was refed.
Idle, I were not set.
An “I” now is a “we.”
Now, to grab meek or bad evil is awe,
so I to late, manmade rut.
Partners not panic, I do;
seminar is asp mighty.
My, we dared now foe, later arenas.
Allied am I.

Monday, April 18, 2011

40 years and 3 months


Christmas 2010

Today is a very special day. April 18, 2011 would have been my parents 40th wedding anniversary. I used to have trouble remembering their wedding day, and I remember many times talking to my mother when I was in college and her reminding me more than once that it was their special day, and I would say, "Oh, oops, sorry...I forgot Mom--Happy Anniversary!", not dwelling as much on it as I should have.

Once I got older and especially once I was married I realized the significance and just what a history those decades provide. This past week I considered my parents wedding day even more so than ever before and thought about my mom constantly. How do you imagine such a day passing without that partner to write another day with you? Those decades of history must include many challenges of building a strong relationship that can get you to number 40. I know they included the growing pains of raising a family and supporting each other through changing careers mid-life. Looking back now so close to our tragedy they all look like such good years with sweet memories.

I can't help but feel yet another mixture of emotions on this special and sad day. 40 years doesn't happen very often anymore, and I am happy to have been there for a small part in it. And yet sad because to love so strong and so much comes at such a high price. I know life will go on, and we have a big reminder of that as today is also Everett Winston's 3 month birthday. On yet another heartbreaking milestone for my family, and especially for my Mom, who is missing her best friend, we celebrate the life and wonderment of our baby boy.

Happy Anniversary, Momma and Daddy. For you are still in our hearts as one special and loving couple.
Happy 3 Months, Everett Winston. May you look back in 36 years and be reaping the benefits of your parents long and happy marriage.